Were you the 'good' kid at school?

Are you the kid not on the radar?

When I was visiting schools to coach students, teachers would ask me what kind of kids I work with. I would say, ‘the ones not on the radar’. The ones that don’t cause drama. The ones that are not at your office door. The ones doing ok. The good kids, that don’t cause you any trouble. They don’t make a fuss. They just get on with it. Those are the one’s I’m interested in.

That was me as a teenager. Agreeable, easy going, conformed (on the whole). We are generally very popular. People warm to us, because it feels good being around us. We make people feel comfortable and at ease. We can absorb a lot. People know us the optimist. We can make the best out of the darkest situations.

The thing is, underneath this very lovely exterior is a sensitive soul. Someone with a big heart, who cares A LOT. Someone who has strong opinions about things. Someone that gets angry, pissed off and upset. Someone that’s been deeply hurt. A messy human like everyone else.

Whatever life has thrown at you has made you more resilient and courageous than you can ever imagine, and yet it still feels scary and vulnerable to say what you feel, ask for what you want, and do the things that you REALLY want to do.

I see you. I understand. You’re happy go lucky, warm nature has served you well and it’s bloody gorgeous. AND you can step out of line. AND you can disagree. AND you can change your mind, AND you can disrupt the routine. You CAN feel comfortable in your own skin and do the things that truly make YOU happy.