I am not afraid of your pain

I know it can be scary to allow ourselves to feel certain emotions, and even scarier to share them with someone else.

When I lost my brother to suicide, I spent a lot of time hiding what I was really feeling and thinking for fear of the reaction from the other person. I could sense that they didn't want to go there, and to be honest neither did I, but I had no choice, I was living with these thought and feelings - it was my life. So I sugar coated the truth of my experience, created a narrative that made some sense of my grief and that was palatable for others to hear. If they really knew what I was feeling and thinking they would run a mile. I mean it was not pretty.

Over the years, I have learned how to befriend my own feelings. I have sat with them long enough that I'm no longer afraid of them. I have huge compassion for them and myself for feeling them.

So know when I say 'I am not afraid of your pain'. I mean it. I'm not. And I wish that I had had someone who had said that to me - because what's worse than being afraid of our own pain, is feeling like everyone else is afraid of it too. It's a lonely place AND it doesn't have to be.

Dr Gabor Mate says.... 'Grief is the opposite of trauma. Trauma is the resistance to grief'.

So know that should you choose to work with me, all your feelings are welcome, because when we allow ourselves to feel the full range of our human emotions, that's when we really come alive!

I am opening up spaces for 1-1 coaching with me over the next 3 months so that you can learn how to embrace all of you (especially the joyful parts). I have a ton of ways to support you to befriend yourself and allow yourself to experience more joy in your life. I know from personal and professional experience that this can take time. We need to unlearn and heal old patterns of pain that are stuck in our system and gently rewire our body and mind to enjoy who we are and the world around us. If you're here for that (I know I am!), then you can book in a 'getting to know each other' call, where we can chat and decide if working together would be a good thing for you.